On the topic of the February blues, personal development guru Martha Beck writes:
I am thinking of training a hamster to predict the weather in Phoenix, where I live. It will not be difficult; I will purchase two buttons – a red one that says “sunny” and a blue one that says “not sunny”. Then I will teach the hamster that the blue button does not exist. We’ll make millions!
For those of you who do not live in Phoenix, please accept my deepest sympathy. The first time I ever sought professional counseling, was during my freshman year in college. I told the psychiatrist at the student health services that I was weepy, despairing, and unwilling to get out of bed. He glanced at his watch and said, in a casual tone, “it’s February.” (see the rest of the post)
What makes it worse for many people is the inexorable approach of Valentine’s Day. Many people are annoyed because they’re not in a relationship so they feel left out. Some are worried about buying the right gift or afraid that they will be required to make some sort of commitment. And maybe just a very few are excited because they’re going to get lucky… unless they sent this card to their Valentine.
I admit to a mixture of all three states of mind. In the past, I’ve rarely had the opportunity to spend Valentine’s Day with a “significant other.” Now that I’m in a relationship, it seems exciting and a little scary, and it also makes me reflect on all those lonely Valentine Days when I was lying on the couch in my wifebeater shirt smelling of booze and surrounded by empty chip packets… or something like that. Although, that wasn’t always the case. Last year, I organized a sort of anti-Valentine get together for friends and members of my writers’ group, and another year I went to the movies with a friend (to see Taken), and those times were much more fun than watching TV and feeling sad. So I guess what I’m trying to say is everything (including V-Day) is better when it’s funny and spent with friends or loved ones.
So whether you’re coupled up or single, whether you’re getting together with your boyfriend/girlfriend or your friends and your trained hamster, I hope you enjoy this day, perhaps by mocking it or in whatever way you can think of. Have a happy Valentine’s Day!